This post was inspired by the book Quiet: The Power of Introverts by Susan Cain. The book was given to me by virtue of my membership in www.fromlefttowrite.com. This is not a review or critique.
Being an extrovert or introvert should not come with a value load---negative or positive. According to Susan Cain, the positive value in our culture is decidedly skewed toward extroverts. She and her book are intended to start a Quiet Revolution.
I say, “Have at it, Susan. Please take my portion of the Value of being an extrovert in this world.” Having said that I am forced to admit, extroversion does have advantages and I’m not ungrateful for those. I maintain it also has the disadvantage of having to due the extroverting for all your introverted friends.
I write this post as a tribute to Judy Bartella, Rachel Childress, Rhonda Johnston, Mary Henson, Wendy Wilson (although I think she is a closet extrovert!) and many of my family members. At one point in my life, I felt surrounded by introverts. I screamed at Rachel one holiday season, “I’m tired of doing the extroverting for all you introverts.”
The truth of the matter is that on most days I wasn’t tired of it. I loved it! But when an extrovert is extroverted-out, look out world. In my experience, she becomes a grouchy, bitchy witch until she gets re-fueled.
Cain’s thesis in much of the book is the benefits that introverts bring to the table which are often overlooked or outshined by the extrovert sparkling away at the head of the table. I can agree with Cain on this, I just wish she hadn’t thrown the extroverts under the bus and called us ax murderers in the process. My introverted friends bring great value to my life. Steadfastness, thoughtfulness, calm spirit, peace, good ideas and great loyalty to our friendship.
Thank you, dear introverts. I bequeath to you my share of all that extroverted work. Hee hee hee hee hee.
I can see how frustrating that would be-doing all the extroverting for your introverted friends.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you, Brenda. I don't know that either quality needs to be 'better' or 'worse' than the other. They both have value. As the extroverted mother of a (dare I say it?) brilliant introvert, it's frustrating for me to watch him shine less because of his aversion to being in the spotlight. The world needs all three kinds of us!
ReplyDeleteI'm sure it does get tiring!!
ReplyDeleteI tested as an amibivert, but I know I have a lot more extrovert qualities than I do introvert. So I know that many times I have to do as you do and extrovert myself out and it is tiring. I wish I could say I surround myself with extroverts though, but I seem to gravitate to the introverts and maybe that's because when all is said and done I prefer doing the extroverting?
ReplyDeleteAlicia, send me a personal email if you are interested in being tested.
DeleteAlicia, I would never trust the short little quiz that said you are an ambivert. If you really want to know, get a more sophisticated test!
ReplyDeleteBren, I, too, tested as an introvert- on more than one occasion. I am exhausted at the end of a long conversation, especially with more than one person. I can do it, but I sure am glad there are extroverts like you who can fill in the gaps. A recharge comes only from spending time alone to "gather myself." I suppose even introverts have some extrovert in them, and extroverts need some time once in a while to "gather" themselves. Thank goodness all are around to compliment each other!
ReplyDeleteGayle, you are one of the very charming introverts. You can "extrovert" with the best of them but you have to re-fuel afterwards. So glad you are one of my introverted friends!
DeleteHeh. I'm very grateful to my extroverted friends. Life is so much more interesting when they are around!
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Yes, I would say extroverts provide most of the world's entertainment in every day conversations. However, many many successful performers are introverts!
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